Expansive and Open-Ended Questions

A Window into your Counterpart’s Mind

Image of a window to symbolize open ended questions in negotiationGenerally speaking, open-ended questions yield much more useful information than closed-ended questions. Open-ended questions often begin with who, what, where, when, how, or why. These questions tend to be more informative because they do not lead your counterpart in any specific direction. They are also more productive in revealing your counterpart’s objectives, needs, wants, and current situation. Finally, open-ended questions are very effective when you want to uncover your counterpart’s behavioral style. Simple “yes” or “no” answers may not reveal his thoughts or points of view. Expansive questions tend to provide a window into your counterpart’s mind.

Here are some typical open-ended questions:

  • “How do you feel about moving out of your home before Christmas?”
  • “You seem to be unhappy with my offer. Which aspects seem to be the biggest problems?”
  • “Why do you feel this model justifies the higher price?”
  • “What type of warranty comes with this product?”
  • “When people have returned this product, what sorts of complaints or problems have they reported?”

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Attentive Listening Skills

Great listening doesn’t come easily. It’s hard work. There are two major types of listening skills: attentive and interactive. The following attentive listening skills will help you uncover the true messages your counterparts are conveying.

  1. Be motivated to listen. Knowing that the person with the most information is usually the one in control of a negotiation should give you an incentive to be a better listener. It is wise to set goals for the amount and type of information you hope to receive from your counterpart. The more you can learn, the better off you will be.

  2. If you must speak, ask questions. To get specific, useful information and uncover your counterpart’s needs and goals, you have to continually ask questions. By moving from broad to narrow questions, you will eventually acquire the information you need to make the best decisions.

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